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I adore heroes who retain their masculinity while wearing a pink shirt or willingly shed tears during a great loss. They lack arrogance and shame. They are so strong in their male self image, it makes them all the more sexy. It's like nothing can defeat them - not even a moment of deep sadness.
You've probably witnessed true life events where men were so moved, tears are shed, or almost. Yes, many of those macho men may fight the emotion. You can tell. The chin quiver, the firm lip line, the clearing of the throat, clenching of fists, flexing of shoulder muscles - anything to get their antidote of testosterone to kick in. Some are strong enough to surrender to the experience with dignity. I'm drawn to those men.
When a novel's hero is brought down to his knees and sobbing, I'm there feeling his pain with him. Perhaps, with the emotional release, the hero then experiences an epiphany, a shocking relevation. It's a ride of epic proportions.
Here is a short video clip of a few movies where men display their deep sorrow.
In my book, The Guardian's Wildchild, the hero, Captain Waterhouse, is a tough, stoic officer. Typical of a military men, in public he keeps most of his emotions in check. He's not invinsible, though, and is caught off guard after he believes he's just executed a woman he cares for. Suddenly, a flood of regret surfaces and he's unable to deal with the aftermath.